The story of the Clueless

 

iremember we we used to do this before

maybe

we should do it again when we would get

into

arguments like in the car time stop it by

saying

okay i'm out last time why don't you pray

and

ask the holy spirit what what you need to

do and i

also pray and i have holy spirit what i

need to do

okay the holy spirit will always tell us to

apologize yes and say sorry to each

other

we call that strife break and because

we you know in handling uh conflicts

you we've learned to ask first a few

questions uh

what is more important this person or

your agenda

is she or he import more important to

you

yeah because because you can always

change your

agenda young man you can always

change your

plan yeah but when you consider the

other

person what's how valuable she is to

you

so you will just go with her and along go

with

what she wants yeah for the sake of love

yeah so

when you're confronted for the sake of

that do you

remember the last time we had an

arqument we were

in this restaurant and i woke up we

walked

out i thought you were just taking a break

i love that rd i love you and

this is before you give birth

remember that you didn't go home do you

remember

what you were fighting about yeah i said

something

like i know now we can laugh about it

yeah

to have relatives you know in the oh yes

i said something i was so

clueless so insensitive i said

you know what i wish that i could have

you know

mommy or my mom and my sisters to be

there with mewhen i'm taking care of you and

something

just snapped with her because she's like

she said what in that way he said

um

oh

was nothing wrong with what you said

right

yeah i umii know where you're coming

from rd

uh not meaning your concern was not

how difficult

it is to take care of miriam your concern

is you

need to give a hundred percent of your

attention

the whole time and when without sleep

it's so

hard to do so sana i have gaps of rest you

know

you're lung because you want to give her

100 when

you're awake and it's almost impossible

to do it

that's that's the only thing you're coming

from

not not for not for and not not you're so

hard

to take care of oh yeah no yeah i know

but of

course yeah like you said that's the way

miriam uh

so and it has nothing to do also with uh

how

much he loves you and she just saw it

that that

particular moment look she said

something like

oh you're concerned about that me im

about to

get operated on you one foot in the grave

and

you're concerned about im about to get

Cut up

and another thing uh you know miriam

maybe

miriam needs to know this because he

you're a

young mother during christine's time

okay

um even if even if i had the help of my

her mom my mother-in-law who's an

ex-pghher mom my mother-in-law whos an

ex-pgh

nurse that the double difficulty now is

this

rd is not making just you bantai the baby

İs in

the room with you that's a big difference

now

before no the baby stays in the nursery

and

whatever the baby needs and long shot

So the

attention of the husband or the bantai will

be

only for the wife that's the big difference

now

which christine experienced with ruth

anne our

daughter babies so she needs to give

attention

to what if the two of them need attention

and that particular yeah which happened

SO

so she was withdrawing from morphine

she shake the

cheek because of so much pain and the

baby started

to cry so i was holding the baby and then

putting

a blanket around my daughter who was

chiling

ii was so exhausted during that week i

really fell asleep i don't know for hours

till aga that particular day it's very

stressful to be the bantai at this time

i had four cesareans but my mom i

did not put pressure on her because

the baby was in the nursery

the whole time today the lamb

so that was early in the morning then and

then

gustavo look andi said oh

can you can you burp the batby

baby

that wasn't complaining

but you know rd because that's the that's

the

one flesh team that kicks in even if your

whole

body wants to sleep the more the mere

fact

you heard those words can you burp the

babybut there's an instant surge of energy that

you're

up against you can say okay really with a

smile

and go ahead and do it uh you know so

that's

that's the amazing dynamics of a

one-flesh team

lazy

don't fall asleep idea with the baby

you know why that happened in our

plane

on the last time we went on on vacation

that there was the father who got the

the had the crying baby from the mother

and the father fell asleep now looking

baby

baby all the mothers around the plane

wanted to

strangle the father all of us moms in the

plane

oh any more questions by the

way when it comes to the sex huh.